Isn’t it that when you made the decision to love and to be committed with someone, you also make an undertaking to stick with that someone through thick and thin? And that this commitment brings with it the effort not to make “pa-cute,” or at least not give a reason for anyone to believe that you are making “pa-cute” with someone else?

That is why, even before the time I decided to love and to be committed with someone, I already had this conscious effort not to associate myself too much with guys who are already attached. Assuming for the sake of argumentation that platonic relationships between me and these already-attached guys can exist, I prefer not to develop too much of that platonic relationship for delicadeza’s sake. I always put myself on the girlfriend’s shoes. What would she feel if she founds out that I am communicating with her boyfriend? How would she react if she finds out that a female like her is actually close to her guy? I did have a lot of close guy friends but once they found their special someone to love, I immediately put a distance between our closeness, respecting their girlfriends’ feelings. I respect their privacy and leave to them matters of their concern. I don’t interview them about their love life nor do I give suggestions, comments, and tips. I don’t believe in helping out for their relationship to work because the truth of the matter is, it is only the two of them who can make it work and an additional person meddling in their affairs would simply complicate the situation. I want them to discover more about themselves through themselves and not through me because I am neither the girlfriend nor the boyfriend. All these because I believe in delicadeza.

So, ever since then and until now, I have not been texting that much nor have I chatted with my sister’s boyfriend (even though there is his effort of getting close to our family), or my friends’ boyfriends or any guy for that matter.

It’s a personal decision I have, a long time ago, cautiously made.